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Objectification - It can be both bad and good!

February 24, 2015

Written by Rick Laska, MSW, LGSW

Feminism has led the way in showing us that women are more than just their bodies!  But interesting research shows that objectification (with a thoughtful, caring partner) may be a very important part of a long-term sexual relationship.  Learn more in this New York Magazine article.  Let us know what you think on our Facebook page or join the conversation on Twitter.

February 2015 Newsletter

February 2, 2015

Written by Rick Laska, MSW, LGSW

Heat it Up in the Bedroom

Baby it’s cold outside!  Winter can leave us feeling cooped up and shivering but there’s no need to let the cold outside creep into your bedroom.  Take our 5 day Heat It Up Challenge!  You might be surprised at how little effort it takes to feel just a little bit sexy.

5 Day Heat It Up Challenge

Day 1:  Hold someone’s hand - a friend’s or a partner’s
Day 2:  Kiss someone!  If you don’t have anyone to kiss, put on chapstick, lipstick, or lip gloss, kiss the mirror, and post a picture of it online
Day 3:  Wear your sexiest pair of underwear...or no underwear at all
Day 4:  Read some erotica
Day 5:  Engage in a sex act, whatever that may be for you - with yourself or with someone else

Feel free to post safe-for-work pictures on our Facebook page of you doing the 5 Day Heat It Up Challenge in February! 

A Night In: Sexy Movie Recommendations

It may be an old movie, but for Rick, Don Juan deMarco is a favorite.  It’s just the right amount of humor, romance, and sexiness from a great cast!  Plus, there’s a Brian Adams song - how can you go wrong with that?  Check it out and let us know if you agree on our Facebook page.

Upcoming Events and Groups

Get Your Sexy Back Girl's Night
Friday, Feb. 6th
7:00-10:00 p.m.
Enlightened Mama
970 Raymond Ave. Suite 200
Saint Paul, MN 55114

Grab a girlfriend or just yourself! Enjoy a cocktail and tasty appetizers while laughing and learning all about how to have fabulous intimacy and sex through pleasure-positive, empowering education provided by Skyhill. We'll cover what it takes to have satisfying long-term sex and much more.  For part 2 of the evening, the effervescent Lindsey of Smitten Kitten will continue the education and share all the latest, greatest, tried and true options in toys, lubes, and more. Lindsey always keeps the mood light! 

No pressure to buy a thing, but should you choose, there will be an opportunity to buy products from the Smitten Kitten and take them home with you right away. Whether a trip to a sex shop it too intimidating or you already have oodles of sex toys and are wondering what the latest greatest product is, you'll be able to find something perfect for you just in time for Valentine's Day!

There's no mandatory sharing or introductions, just informative, super fabulous, highly inspiring, sexual wellness education!  Space is limited to 50 participants so reserve your spot early! 

$15 in advance or $20 at the door.  Cocktails, wine, non-alcoholic drinks, and appetizers provided.  Yoga studio seating (floor with bolsters, blankets, low chairs, etc). Limited sofa/chairs for those with physical concerns.  Register today!

Let’s Talk About PrEP at Kink U
Saturday, February 14th, 2015
1:00-3:00 p.m.
The Saloon MN
830 Hennepin Ave
Minneapolis MN 55403

Titans of the Midwest is excited to partner with Twin Cities Leather Weekend 2015 for Kink U!  Kink U regularly provides education and workshops for individuals who want explore their fetishes.  Sessions include knowledgeable community leaders, expert guest presenters, and hands-on experiences to work toward a safe and satisfying kink experience.

SkyHill therapist, Rick Laska, MSW, LGSW will be joined by other community members and experts for a frank discussion on the impact of Pre-Exposure Prophylaxis (PrEP) - a daily pill which helps prevent the transmission of HIV.  The panel will discuss some of the realities of taking PrEP, some of the controversies surrounding it, and how to learn more about.  After the panel, check out some of the other demonstrations and educational sessions.  To learn more, head to https://www.facebook.com/events/1600736156814827/.

Sober Sex
Sober sex can be the best sex of your life!  For many people in recovery, the idea of sex while sober can be scary and 12-step programs often overlook this important aspect of sobriety.  This group will examine common concerns for sober people such as developing sexual goals, boundaries and communicating with partners, identifying triggers, dealing with sexual fantasies involving use and navigating dating and hookups as a sober person. People of all genders, orientations and relationship styles are encouraged to attend.

Group is a six week commitment and costs $35 per session.  For more information or to register, please email Laura Rademacher, MA, LAMFT or call her at 612-879-0476.

January 2015 Newsletter

January 22, 2015

Written by Rick Laska, MSW, LGSW

Sex Therapy and the New Year

The New Year can be a time for new beginnings.  It can also be in the dead of Winter when we are least likely to get outside and enjoy the sun if we live in the North.  So often, we use the beginning of the year to make commitments to our health and well-being as a result of this indoor isolation.  We join gyms; we start eating foods that support our health goals; we start new spending/saving habits; or we make commitments to spend time with important others in our lives.

All of these actions to health and well-being can be boosted by sex!  Research has shown that sex can enhance feelings of closeness, improve immune system functioning, and even elevate our moods.  By spending some intentional time mucking through some of our barriers around sex, we can achieve some of these wonderful outcomes.

In addition to being licensed mental health practitioners and able to address non-sexual mental health needs, SkyHill therapists are AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists)-certified sex therapists or working toward certification.  This process includes on-going education in areas specific to human sexuality, supervision, and consultation with other sexual health experts.  With this rigorous training, clients can know that they are working with competent sex therapy professionals.  To learn more about working with a therapist at SkyHill, call us at 952-562-7837 or email us at info@skyhilltherapy.com.

Congratulations SkyHill Therapists!

Congratulations to Jennie Hilleren, LMFT, CST, Laura Rademacher, MA, LAMFT, and Rick Laska, MSW, LGSW for being accepted to speak at the 2015 Annual AASECT Conference.  This conference is being held in Minneapolis this year and will include leading sexual health professionals from around the nation.  SkyHill therapists will be presenting on a range of topics.  Keep your eyes open for further information regarding the AASECT Conference and SkyHill’s involvement!

Upcoming Events and Groups

Get Your Sexy Back Girl's Night
Friday, Feb. 6th
7:00-10:00 p.m.
Enlightened Mama
970 Raymond Ave. Suite 200
Saint Paul, MN 55114

Grab a girlfriend or just yourself! Enjoy a cocktail and tasty appetizers while laughing and learning all about how to have fabulous intimacy and sex through pleasure-positive, empowering education provided by Skyhill. We'll cover what it takes to have satisfying long-term sex and much more.  For part 2 of the evening, the effervescent Lindsey of Smitten Kitten will continue the education and share all the latest, greatest, tried and true options in toys, lubes, and more. Lindsey always keeps the mood light! 

No pressure to buy a thing, but should you choose, there will be an opportunity to buy products from the Smitten Kitten and take them home with you right away. Whether a trip to a sex shop it too intimidating or you already have oodles of sex toys and are wondering what the latest greatest product is, you'll be able to find something perfect for you just in time for Valentine's Day!

There's no mandatory sharing or introductions, just informative, super fabulous, highly inspiring, sexual wellness education!  Space is limited to 50 participants so reserve your spot early! 

$15 in advance or $20 at the door.  Cocktails, wine, non-alcoholic drinks, and appetizers provided.  Yoga studio seating (floor with bolsters, blankets, low chairs, etc). Limited sofa/chairs for those with physical concerns. 

Go to http://lifehealinglife.com/the-blog/2014/12/5/get-your-sexy-back to register today!

Compulsive Sexual Behavior Group

Whether you feel you may be a sex addict, sexually compulsive, or experiencing out-of-control sexual behaviors, finding the support you need is an important part of healing from the hurt and shame that may be a part of your past.  Join us for an 8 week group to explore strategies to manage your sexual behaviors, learn about triggers to impulsive sex, set reasonable goals toward your ideal sex life, and find help and support from others going through similar experiences.

This group is facilitated by Heather Verjovsky, MA, LAMFT, compulsive sexual behavior specialist at SkyHill.  For more information, or to enroll in the group, call Heather at 952-836-4525 or email heather@skyhilltherapy.com.